I have been asked a lot lately by my clients, “How do I stay positive when I have negative people in my life?” I am sure many of you reading this have had the same question at some point in time. It can be a challenge when the negative people in your life are your spouse, parents, siblings or in a lot of cases in laws and friends. Most of the times our family and friends do mean well, but sometimes don’t realize just how ‘stinkin’ their thinking as gotten.
I remember several years ago, my husband and I had just flown into CT to visit my family . My mom had met us and we were chatting, and I told her something that was exciting that was starting to happen in our lives, and she looked at me and said, “Don’t talk about it, as it might not happen then.” I gasped, and wanted to say, “No, No, No…you need to talk about it and visualize it even more so!” Needless to say, I said nothing. I later thought, if you can’t tell your own mother and have her be happy for you, who can you tell?
I learned as time went on to surround myself with people who were like minded and as I had exciting things to share, I did so with them. Don’t get me wrong, my mother was an Amazing woman, when she walked into the room you could feel her smile. She was very kindhearted and giving, it was just that she had limiting beliefs surrounding certain things. Since then, she has passed away and I miss her very much.
I have learned over the years, that when I fill yourself up with love, joy, happiness, positivity, self-esteem, trust, honor, respect and all of the other goodies, it helps me to stay positive. I find that it also helps me to be my own support system so I am not looking for it outside of myself. The great thing is that when I do get support from my loved ones and friends, it only enhances what I have already given to myself. Here are some other tips to be able to continue to be positive.
Tips On How To Continue To Be Positive:
Surround Yourself With Positive People:
I have met so many amazing like-minded and positive people online through my social networks. There are groups on Facebook that you can join as well. When you make new friends, make sure that their nature is aligned pretty much to yours, it doesn’t have to be exactly but where your values are similar. This goes for dating as well, if you are single. It is very important, as I have found that if a friend doesn’t have similar values, etc. that your friendship will only last so long, it will not be sustainable for very long.
Read more of Susan’s tips here!